Compliments: Stumbling Blocks or Treasures of the Heart? by Rick Kamrath

Two things eventually happened that would teach me how my reactions could have been better. After many years in this ministry, my heart started wandering through dry places. I began to wonder whether all the work we had put in did much good or ever really mattered. It was at that time that I believe the Lord spoke to me. He said that there was a “treasure box” of sorts inside of my heart, and that those jewels that people tried to give me to keep in that treasure box had been continually rejected and now it remained empty. Those were treasures that were meant to encourage me so that I wouldn’t have to wonder if my work was in vain.

The other event that happened that I was touched by someone else’s music ministry. I thought that they needed to know how much others were affected, so I approached them, with “gift in hand.” After offering them my words, I saw that same zombie-like daze come over them that I used to slip into. With a swift backhand, they knocked my “gift” to the floor, just like I used to do.

How do we know that the Lord Himself doesn’t speak directly to someone’s heart of offer these words? What about the verse that follows “pride goes before a fall” which says, “Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24)? Does He actually give “an instructed tongue, to know the word that sustains the weary: (Is. 50:4), and doesn’t Proverbs say that “an anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up” (12:25)?

I don’t what to know how many people over the course of those years walked away from me feeling as if their “gift” was rejected. Maybe they would plan harder next time how they could get through to my heart. Maybe they would resign themselves to not even bother.

All the while, I was feeling pretty comfortable in my “righteousness,” measuring each kind word as a test to my humility.

I don’t claim now to be an expert in knowing how to respond perfectly to appreciation. My own shyness is till involved. But I do know that there I nothing wrong with answering (c): “Thank you.” “Thank you, that really helps me, because knowing that I did okay in what I’m supposed to do takes the pressure off of me, and helps me know that He can freely work. And thanks for caring enough to let me know.”

PR

From Worship Update (4th Quarter 1996), “Compliments: Stumbling Block or Treasures of the Heart?”
©1996 Mercy/Vineyard Publishing, P.O. Box 68025, Anaheim, CA 92817-0825. USA.
Used by Permission.

 

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Category: Ministry, Pneuma Review, Winter 2002